I recently read an article on the curious tale of a modern lady; the writer states a case in point of women not keeping their purity for their husbands and goes ahead to say that westernization and foreign culture have necessitated this. He further adds that women empowerment and loss of family values is what has led to aborting of the cultural values that we used to uphold before.
That leaves me thinking to myself, is it that women have grown stronger or men have grown weaker? And what does women empowerment have to do with this?
Who are these women losing their purity to? With such an increase in the cases of irresponsible men and deadbeat dads, can you really blame women for losing their purity before marriage when most young men are simply after fun?
Growing up, there was this picture that every woman had of meeting a strong man who would lead her through life securely. Mainly, our dads were this kind, the kind of guy who locks the door last in the evening, fixes breakages around the house, commands respect and however little they earned, they were responsible and provided for the family. This alpha character spelt masculinity.
Disappointingly, they have grown up to find this surprising breed of men who are having fun from 21years and at forty, they are still having fun and there is so much pretence evident to all when approaching a lady that you only notice after all has been done and said, the word responsibility is not in their dictionary.
Women will agree with me that masculinity in men is slowly fading away. I know of men who will be stranded when their car gets a puncture or run away and leave a lady whom they were taking a stroll with because of a dog bark scare. This is a worrying trend.
The type of man that has a way out of everything, yes, the ones that encourage you to abort a baby because they are not ready to be fathers and if you don’t, they will prefer to be dead in anonymity and always have someone to blame for their misdeeds.
Terry a young man, who studies at a local University, says let’s blame it all on women empowerment. Really now! How does women empowerment relate to this?
A real man should be able to handle a strong lady, see that’s just another excuse. Women empowerment has just given women an opportunity to express themselves more freely, that shouldn’t be a problem for any man and is definitely not a good enough excuse for layabout dads or any other form of weakness as is being showcased.
Recently, as I was going through a women’s Facebook group, I was surprised to note the number of men who are being sustained and supported by women, they don’t go to work and wait for their wives to provide for them and take care of the kids. More so, you still have to call a carpenter to fix a door knob when you get back home. These are capable learned young men, but just lazy.
Circumstances have forced women to be stronger, not even woman empowerment. The continued increase in these cases is what has forced women to stand up to the challenge of being able to do all.
It’s important to note that not all men, but this is increasingly becoming a trend especially among young men, kindly correct these weak tendencies and avoid spreading this madness to the next generation. Remember, strong women only intimidate weak men. If you are a strong man then you are up to the task of handling the latter.