Written by Timothy Makokha
Read 2005 Times
31 year old man from Misanga village Bungoma County shocks residents by rejecting the mother of his first born child in an awful way. Barasa Okumu had become a public nuisance, after rejecting the woman with whom he has a child, his only child.
Different people came up with varied views in explanation of his behavior. His mother went on her knees to seek God’s intervention as she believes the devil was using her son the wrong way. Some villagers were of the view that the man fears to express love to his wife. For his father, he believed someone had bewitched his son and visited the village medicine man for intervention.
His age mates were unable to explain this behavior as they saw the matter to be beyond their imagination. “Barasa and I were circumcised the same day with the same knife but whatever that he is doing is beyond my understanding, maybe he is crazy or totally mad,” said Andrew Simiyu.
Talking to him did not make an impact, until his father resorted to beating him in an attempt to put sense into his head. Last week on Monday, his father with a walking stick beat him seriously as he was in the bathroom, taking advantage of the event as he knew his son could run away naked. It is true, where diplomacy fails force must be applied.
Maria, his wife tried all means to please him in vain as this man could not see sense in whatever advice people were giving him. Maria could not tell whether her beauty, love, care and character are things that displease her husband. She had done all that a wife would do to her beloved husband without getting a positive response from him.
His in-laws tried their level best to make this marriage work without any success.
He could masturbate in the presence of the wife. ‘When I sleep on his bed he moves to sleep on the cold floor in the sitting room and masturbate from there’ Maria said while tears were rolling down her cheeks.
The clan officials together with elders of the village held several meetings in attempts to advise him but the advice fell on deaf ears.
On Tuesday last week he was taken to the chief’s Baraza but the 31 year old man remained adamant. ‘Young man, all women are just the same, accept the wife and marry another one of your choice in future to add on this one’, said one of the elders. The woman agreed to this proposal of allowing her husband to marry another wife but Okumu still refused.
‘Before sleeping, he normally takes a photo of a girl he claims to love, sleep on it and make movements dramatizing a sexual act with the photo’, Maria explained to the elders. He continued with this act until he made a hole in the photo. This made it easy for him as he could now insert his reproductive organ through the hole in the photo and sleep with the photo on the organ as he masturbate throughout the night.
All this did not scare Maria as she was determined to stay, to linger and love. Last year December, he moved from his house and rented a room a few meters away from his home. Maria was not moved by this act as she decided to stay in the house alone with the baby. Later, Wanyonyi his eldest brother coaxed him to return home.
His return made life of Maria more difficult as he had become so cruel and unapproachable to his wife. Yesterday evening, Maria decided to pack and leave with her baby tied on her back after realizing Okumu is not ready to have her for a wife.
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