It's self-evident that going through a break up or divorce is not something anybody can call enjoyable. Even if the break up was friendly there can still be bad feelings and it can get emotional from time to time. But feelings sometimes can change, you might reach a point where you miss your ex and the good times you had together and you want to win her back.

To be successful you need a strategy, don't just try to pull it off without a verified course of action. Don't anticipate it to be easy to achieve, but realizing it is doable can mean a lot to your motivation.

No two people in relationship are the same so you must follow a plan that is specific to your situation.

Avoid trying anything that has nothing to do with what you are experiencing; you would be wasting your time and efforts. But there are basic things you can do that virtually everyone can benefit from. There is all kinds of advice available teaching you how to get your ex back. You must sort through it to find solution which pertains to your situation and ignore the rest. Most importantly is to take action on that advice that does apply to you.

A good first hand source for information could be your own family and friends. It's possible almost everyone has experienced a break up at some point in their lives. There may be someone that is now married to someone they broke up with years ago. Being able to talk to them may give you some ideas on what you can try or avoid. In addition you may get emotional support just being able to talk about your situation with someone that has experienced relationship break ups in the past.

An important tip after a break up is not trying to keep contacting your ex. This happens many times with someone begging for a second chance or trying to explain how they really feel. This is not the way to start off trying to get your ex back, it can only make it worse.

Both of you need some time to yourselves to deal with what has happened. Remember your emotions are high and it can take a few weeks to get to the point where you are thinking clearly about your situation, so give it some time.