Unfaithfulness is one of the things that kills relationships the world over,the most faithful people in history were once found unfaithful to their spouse,Bill Clinton was embroiled in a scandal with a former White house staff Monica Lewinsky,closer home celebrated media personality was in a tussle with their spouse less than six months since their much-publicised marriage even before the honeymoon period was over and the dust settled.
As I was busy taking quick sips of my coffee to curb cold in the wee hours of the night, my friend Faith called, and kept on yapping “How can he cheat on me?” That’s all I got as she was speaking at a fast pace with so much anger. My mind was still tuned to the slow music playing on my laptop so getting to grips with what she was saying was a hard task.
This got me thinking about the whole issue, how can we prevent unfaithfulness? Faithfulness is a virtue that is not a specialty of many. To the few who have grasped it, it is innate, comes from deep within and such people wonder why someone would cheat.
When unfaithfulness is mentioned, what comes to mind is physical cheating or unfaithfulness, most of us limit our definition of cheating to the physical aspects.
Well, let me enlighten you, cheating starts off with little things like having a moment with a workmate when you mistakenly bump into each other, stalking a former classmate’s photos on Facebook, exchanging witty remarks with friends or staying up till late at night while chatting intimately with an old friend, and it all eventually leads to the physical or actual cheating.
Just how hard or easy is it to be faithful? To some people being faithful is as easy as closing your eyes while to some it’s simply unavoidable.
The good news is that most of these situations can be avoided as soon as they commence or before they start.
Tips to prevent cheating
This is the most sort after solution since nothing impossible with God. You pray from your heart and use your prayer words well. Bless your partner, and seek for guidance from God always.God always answers prayers and your unfaithful ways will be sorted by Him.
We have all struggled with communication in relationships at one point or the other. Be it marriage, friendships, family. The pillar to any relationship is to create a way of solving your problems and challenges through communication, and not just that but good communication. This is mainly to avoid misunderstandings, blame games and getting the wrong message from your partner.
Understanding the nature and roles of your partner
Men love to be in control and to lead. They always like to know that they are the head, the problem solvers, while women mainly seek to be understood and loved due to their emotional nature.
When either of them lacks this they tend to look for it elsewhere and not because they’ve stopped loving each other but because they seek to find what fits their nature. Ladies should let men lead most times and men should understand women, don’t solve their problems.
Rewarding and appreciating each other
It’s always important to appreciate the effort made by each partner to better the relationship instead of always concentrating on the negatives. Appreciate it when he comes home early and provides fees for the kids or when you wake up find your clothes and shoes well done and breakfast ready on the table. Make your partner feel appreciated and that will make him or her to be motivated.
Enhance physical appearance
Always be clean and maintain your good looks. He or she loved you when you were plump or medium sized, size doesn’t matter just be smart. As they say, every monkey has its style. Don’t give him a chance to refer you to some other lady over her smartness and vice versa.
When your man or lady heads out smartly dressed, you feel proud to be associated with them and trust me, there will be no room for unfaithfulness.
Take up most of your partner’s free time and be the one they run to first. Your personality and heart are what pulled them to you in the first place. Keep your relationship interesting. Make him or her enjoy spending time with you. Make a culture of fun things you do together and curb the need to go out with other people just to have fun.
When you hack the art of getting this from each other, then, hurray!!! You’ve made it.Lastly just make your union a priority, and work at getting the most and best out of it. If you are doing everything right and your partner is still unfaithful , honey just move on from them because there is nothing more you can do.