Love is a beautiful thing, an enticing idea that takes many by storm. Nevertheless, it is like a cage, those in it want to get out while those who are outside scramble to get in. It was created; in fact, it is the greatest commandment, but so far things have gone sour.
The love that was intended to be unconditional now has mutated into a very expensive and conditional affair. You here a dummy lady describing a guy she would want to get into an affair with, “My babe should be like this and that” and you are left mouth agape. You wonder if such a person really exists on this ‘man eats man’ society. Sometimes you wish to slap into her head the fact that nowadays the class of Mr. Right has become extinct, and the only suitable solution is to drag that Mr. left in front of you, and turn him to the right calibre you want.
Mary, a resident of Bungoma, narrated to our journalist that when it comes to choosing a man to settle down with, being choosy comes with the age of the woman, the younger the girl the more she looks at, at a man, she laughs as she compares the qualities to a full roll of tissue, as she ages, the tables turn. She starts observing how she is the only one who is not married and therefore the need to streamline the qualifications. She summarises everything in two Ms i.e a man is just a man.
Cutting the long story short here is a short catalogue that includes the kind of men who women should turn away from them no matter what, or else they may become Lot’s wife.
- A Womanizer
One of the core promises a girlfriend or a wife needs from his man is that he will never ever put anyone else(another lady in this case) above her.
No woman bear the pain if she realises you are sleeping around with other women. It hurts for a man to keep on telling her “You are my only”, only for the lady to realise that she is number eight.
Wefuma, a Kitale resident narrates how she parted with her husband upon realising he had a ‘side dish’. She recalls how one day her man came home having forgotten to pull off the condom he had used. She packed and left the drunk guy who was staggering around not knowing what was going on and to his dismay, he never knew what transpired that night. He didn’t recall sleeping with any woman, he recalled when our reporter reached him for more information. Maybe it’s a trick to win a jackpot courtesy of Sportpesa.
- A Hot tampered Man.
“I hate being slapped, being hit on my breasts and being shouted at” is a common phrase among women. No one likes being harassed physically. It poses an imminent danger to the minors. Endless cases have been reported of women being slaughtered like a goat all because of disagreements between the two. Women suffer the more when it comes to domestic violence with few exceptions. Dialogue should always be the option, let’s talk not fight. You understand the logic? Good.
Mr Wabwire, a relationship expert and family advisor, insists on other forms of solving disputes other than violence. He carries on with the idea of spreading love. Let love prevail like music, let it flow, no one should stop the rhythm. A good number of families have broken up, due to one partner being violent. He goes on to advise young couples to solve their differences amicably and if the violence continues, it’s better to seek a divorce because nothing is worth more than life.
- A Drunkard
A guy who drinks too much is not a good option for a husband, you want me to explain further? OK! First listen to Nebula’s story, a resident of Bungoma, ” My husband’s loyalty to alcohol is not going to end anytime soon. He started drinking before we got married but he didn’t tell me.”
Somedays we sleep on empty stomachs. Nevertheless, he is very chaotic, my third pregnancy was terminated due to the beating I received from him. To our kids, learning is not the norm because all the money he earns “Zinaishia kwa mama pima “. He is in constant quarrels with his bosses at work because he goes to work drunk, dirty and even abuses his bosses. He sold the land we had bought for our kids, all our bank accounts run on overdraft. Even “Hanitoshelezi” I am forced ” to go outside “because I’m also human.” Need I say more? Let me preserve it for next time.
